Oh Kathi

I've been pretty severely disappointed with everyone's opinions on my situation with that German girl, Kathi. All the guys basically said "go for it", before I even explained the entire situation. The girls mostly told me she is using me for attention. That it's not me she's interested in, she just misses her boyfriend and is using me to satisfy her need for attention. This second one I don't deny, really. I guess I just don't understand their attitude. It would be upsetting if she's only interested in me because she cannot have me, but that's not the case. I am honestly not upset by the fact that she wants me but won't do anything about it.

Sure, there was a part of me that believed she might break up with him. But that was before I learned that her boyfriend was actually a really nice guy and good for her. Now I know she'd never break it off with him for me, because she's actually half serious about this guy. So, I'm left wondering why she is such a horrible person in everyone's eyes. I completely understand her issue.

That being said, she is very young and has to learn to handle things better. I'd like to handle this situation in a way that will better her, make her take more responsibility for her actions. I wonder whether my taking initiative to stop the flirting is helping or damaging her ability. She has been unable to stop the eye flirting, even after a proper talk. Sure, she has been the one putting a stop to the touchy feely progressing, but she sure is playing a dangerous game by asking for it then pushing me away. I hope I'm helping her in the long run by not pushing more.